In a relationship, communication is one of the most important things. Of course, trust is also very important, but if you can’t communicate with the person you are with, you are going to run into some problems. Communication is all about being able to say what you feel but also being able to listen to your partner’s feelings. Communication is something that takes time and practice, but you can easily get the hang of it. If you find that you’re having some problems, here are some tips you can use to make things easier for the both of you.
Say What You Mean, Mean What You Say
When you are communicating with your partner it is so important for you to be able to say what you mean and to mean what you say. Do not be a push over or beat around the bush. It is important to get to the point and make your case. Of course, when you are making your case, be sure you can explain yourself as well. Instead of saying just something like, “ You could do more around the house”, try saying, “I do all of the laundry. I really wish you would help out with it or take the garbage out”. You will see that if you can explain yourself and back yourself up with details, what you are saying will be easier to understand.
Use “I” Statements
Instead of starting the conversation off with telling your partner something like, “You don’t pay any attention to me”, say something similar using an “I” statement. Instead say, “I wish you would pay more attention to me”. This is the best way to not irritate your partner or make it seem like you are directing blame. It also is less likely to start a fight and more likely to get you what you want.
Listen to Your Partner
Once you have spoken your peace, give your partner the floor and let them say what is on their mind. Be sure to listen to what they are saying. Don’t keep butting in or cutting them off because they are saying something you don’t like. That can make matters worse. Let them say what they need to say and then pitch your rebuttal.
Communication is an important part of a healthy relationship. If you are having some trouble communicating with your partner, give these tips a try to make things easier. Remember to always listen, use “I” statements and say what you mean. You’ll be communicating better and as a result, you will have a happier relationship.