We live in a world where many people have confidence issues for one reason or another. When I was in high school, I noticed a lot of people with confidence issues were bullied, because they appeared to be easy targets. After all, they were uncomfortable in their own skin. I realized this was something I would never want to happen to my children, and as a mom, I feel it is important for my daughter to grow up happy with who she is and be confident about herself. So, how do you grow a confident child? Here are some tips!
Always Compliment Your Child
I always compliment my daughter. I tell her on a daily basis that she is beautiful just the way she is, and I have found that this makes her confident. Sure, she is only two and a half, but she really is. I also tell her things like, “I like your eyes”, or “I like your outfit today!”, and this makes her feel so good. She smiles and says, “thank you” and she’s also really great about complimenting other people, too! Her favorite compliment is, “I like your face!” Pointing out what you love about your children will make them feel good. Compliment them when they do a good job at something and be specific like “You were really helpful today when you unloaded the dryer.”
It’s Okay to Be Different
It is so important to let your child know that being different is completely okay! Even though my daughter is young, I want her to know that it is okay to be herself. I would never want to see her following the crowd or being a copy. I will always encourage her to be an original and to not be a follower, but a leader. I would never push her to like something just because everyone else did. When she’s old enough to fully understand, I will tell her to embrace what makes her different and unique.
Those Who Mind, Don’t Matter
One of the best things I’ve learned about being confident is, “Those who matter won’t mind, but those who mind, don’t matter”. This may sound like another silly quote about life that you’d find on a blogging site, but it is so true! The people who really like you will appreciate you the way that you are and will always try to boost your confidence. If someone doesn’t like you or tries to bring you down, it’s because they’re jealous or because they have confidence issues of their own. Take pride in who you are and don’t let them bother you.
At the end of the day, it is so important to be happy with who you are. After all, you have to live with you forever. Know that it is okay to be different and let your children know the same, because if everyone was the same, the world would be a really boring place. Encourage your children to take pride in who they are and be sure to always compliment them to boost their confidence. Set a good example for them and they are sure to grow up happy with who they are.