One of the best things about having a mother-in-law is that she is not your mother. That is always something to be thankful for, unless, of course, your mother-in-law is a wonderful woman that does not drive you nuts. Unfortunately, that seems to rarely be the case. You married your spouse out of love, but when you get married, you also wind up getting married to his or her family as well. Now, you have an overbearing mother-in-law that is constantly sticking her nose in where it doesn’t belong, leaving you ready to pull your hair out. How do you deal? Well, here are some tips and tricks you can use to make dealing with this meddling momma a little easier.
Take Her with a Grain of Salt
If your mother-in-law is making you absolutely crazy with her opinions and advice, the best thing you can do is to not get yourself worked up. Yes, that can be hard, and yes, you may want to pull your hair out, but the best thing to do is just to take her with a grain of salt. Not literally, of course. This phrase means to let what she says go over your head and don’t let it bother you.
Be Civil and Explain Yourself
If you find that you simply cannot ignore your mother-in-law because the things she says really do bother you, then the best thing you can do is to sit her down and try and talk to her. This may be easier said than done, but it may be a last resort in some instances. Have your mother-in-law sit down and tell her what exactly it is she says that bothers you. Explain to her why it bothers you and ask her as nicely as possible to lay off a bit. Tell her that you do appreciate her advice and words of wisdom (if you can call them that!), but explain that you and your spouse are adults, and you will be making your own decisions and raising your family as you see fit. Be kind, and tell her if you ever need anything, she will be the first person you come to for advice. It’s sort of sweetening her up a bit, but it can be so helpful!
Avoid Her Like She Has the Plague
If you cannot tolerate your mother-in-law and she is driving you so crazy, the best thing you can do is to avoid her, if possible. This may seem cruel or just flat out rude, but in some instances, it is for the best. She may drive you nuts for a time, but you do not want to snap on her or cut her out of your life completely, so avoiding her until you can deal with her in a civil and decent way may be for the best, and she will surely be more appreciative in the long run.
Everyone has had an issue with their mother-in-law at one point in time or another, but it is nothing you cannot work through, if you try. Give these methods a try if you are having mother-in-law issues and see for yourself how much better things can be.